Lisa Christiansen

Finding balance in your life

When life is busy, or all your energy is focused on a special project, it’s all too easy to find yourself “off balance”, not paying enough attention to important areas of your life. While you need to have drive and focus if you’re going to get things done, taking this too far can lead to frustration and intense PAIN.
That’s when it’s time to take a “helicopter view” of your life, so that you can bring things back into balance.

This is where the Wheel of Life (or Life Wheel) can help. It helps you consider each area of your life in turn and assess what’s off balance. And so, it helps you identify areas that need more attention.
Figure 1 below shows an example wheel of life with example “dimensions” (we’ll explain how to choose the right areas of life or dimensions for yourself below).

The Wheel of Life is powerful because it gives you a vivid visual representation of the way your life is currently, compared with the way you’d ideally like it to be. It is called the “Wheel of Life” because each area of your life is mapped on a circle, like the spoke of a wheel.
Using the Tool
Start by drawing a circle with the 6 areas pictured below and on a scale of 1-10 fill in the areas according to how you feel you are accomplished in these areas.

1. Start by brainstorming the 6 dimensions of your life that are important for you. Different approaches to this are:
• The roles you play in life for example: husband/wife, father/mother, manager, colleague, team member, sports player, community leader, or friend;
• Areas of life that are important to you for example: artistic expression, positive attitude, career, education, family, friends, financial freedom, physical challenge, pleasure, or public service; or
• Your own combination of these (or different) things, reflecting the things that are your priorities in life, you will find they fall into these 6 categories.

2. Write down these dimensions down on the Wheel of Life diagram, one on each spoke of the life wheel.

3. This approach assumes that you will be happy and fulfilled if you can find the right balance of attention for each of these dimensions. And different areas of your life will need different levels of attention at different times. So the next step is to assess the amount of attention you’re currently devoting to each area.

Consider each dimension in turn, and on a scale of 1 (low) to 10 (high), write down the amount of attention you’re devoting to that area of your life. Mark each score on the appropriate spoke of your Life Wheel.

4. Now join up the marks around the circle. Does your life wheel looked and feel balanced?

5. Next it’s time to consider your ideal level in each area of your life. A balanced life does not mean getting 5 in each life area: some areas need more attention and focus than others at any time. And inevitably you will need to make choices and compromises, as your time and energy are not in unlimited supply!

So the question is, what would the ideal level of attention be for you each life area?

Plot the “ideal” scores around your life wheel too.

6. Now you have a visual representation of your current life balance and your ideal life balance. What are the gaps? These are the areas of your life that need attention.

And remember that gaps can go both ways. There are almost certainly areas that are not getting as much attention as you’d like. However there may also be areas where you’re putting in more effort than you’d ideally like. These areas are sapping energy and enthusiasm that may better be directed elsewhere.

7. Once you have identified the areas that need attention, it’s time to plan the actions needed to work on regaining balance. Starting with the neglected areas, what things do you need to start doing to regain balance? In the areas that currently sap your energy and time, what can you STOP doing or reprioritize or delegate to someone else? Make a commitment to these actions by writing them on your worksheet of things you will start doing to move you in balance and things you will stop doing that are not serving you to achieve your balance.

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Tip:
You can use the Wheel of Life as preparation for goal setting. It helps identify the area you want to work on and is a great way of visualizing your current and desired life. Once you are working on improving your life balance, it’s also a useful tool for monitoring how it changes over time.

The Wheel of Life is a great tool to help you improve your life balance. It helps you quickly and graphically identifies the areas in your life to which you want to devote more energy, and helps you understand where you might want to cut back.

The challenge now is to transform this knowledge and desire for a more balanced life into a positive program of action.
Moving on
Life and career coaching can be an incredibly powerful way of doing this. With the support of your own personal coach, you’ll find it much easier to think through and maintain a positive program of change. Click here to find out more.