Daily Resolutions For Highly Successful People

Lisa Christiansen 

The Seven Habits are not a set of separate or piecemeal psyche-up formulas, they are in harmony with the natural laws of growth, they provide an incremental, sequential, highly integrated approach to the development of personal and interpersonal effectiveness. They move us progressively on a Maturity Continuum from dependence to independence to interdependence.

#1 Be Proactive

#2 Begin With The End In Mind

#3 Put First Things First

#4 Think Win/Win

#5 Seek First To Understand Then To Be Understood

#6 Synergize

#7 Sharpen The Saw

Dependence is the paradigm of you, you take care of me, you come through for me, you didn’t come through, I blame you for the results. Dependent people need others to get what they want.

Independence is the paradigm of I, I can do it, I am responsible, I am self-reliant, I can choose, Independent people can get what they want through their own effort.

Interdependence is the paradigm of we, we can do it, we can cooperate, we can combine our talents and abilities and create something greater together. Interdependent people combine their own efforts with the efforts of others to achieve their greatest success.

Effective Interdependence can only be built on a foundation of true independence.

If we want to change a situation, we first have to change ourselves and to change ourselves effectively; we first have to change our perceptions. Perception is reality… you give words and actions meaning, change your belief and you will change your future. Once you master your emotions you are in control of your destiny, conquer the mind and your body will follow. It is when you make a change in your psychology that you will create a much-needed change in your physiology.

Albert Einstein observed – ” The significant problems we face cannot be solved at the same level of thinking we were at when we created them”.

The way we see the problem is the problem.

Effective People are not problem-minded they’re opportunity-minded. They feed opportunities and starve problems.

Paradigms are powerful because they create the lens through which we see the world. The power of a paradigm shift is the essential power of quantum change whether that shift is an instantaneous or a slow and deliberate process.

We must look at the lens through which we see the world as well as at the world we see and understand that the lens itself shapes how we interpret the world.

We simply assume that the way we see things is the way they really are or the way they should be and our attitudes and behaviors grow out of those assumptions.

Each of us has many maps in our head – which can be divided into two main categories: maps of the way things are, or realities and maps of the way things should be or values. We interpret everything we experience through these mental maps.

Our character, basically, is a composite of our habits because they are consistent often-unconscious patterns they constantly daily express our character and produce our effectiveness … or ineffectiveness.

You are NOT your habits; you CAN replace old patterns of self-defeating behavior with new patterns, new habits of effectiveness, happiness and trust-based relationships.

Highly Proactive People recognize their “respons-ability the ability to choose their response. They do not blame circumstances, conditions, or conditioning for their behavior. Their behavior is a product of their own conscious choice based on values rather than a product of their conditions based on feeling.

Reactive People focus on circumstances over which they have no control, the negative energy generated by that focus combined with neglect in areas they could do something about causes their Circle of Influence to shrink.

Proactive People focus their efforts on the things they can do something about, the nature of their energy is positive, enlarging, and magnifying causing their Circle of Influence to increase.

Whatever is at the center of our life will be the source of our security, guidance, wisdom and power.

To Your Continued Success,

Lisa Christiansen