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There are many NLP techniques available, some basic and some more advanced. Each of these techniques can be applied in a variety of ways to improve every area of your life, including personal development, business, communication, health, education and therapy. Below is a partial list of these techniques and their applications:
Powerful basic NLP techniques include the following:
Representational Systems: How we mentally code and process information: Visual, Auditory, and Kinesthetic. This technique has a variety of applications including increasing motivation, emotional intensity and rapport.
Mirroring: Adopting characteristics of another person’s physiology, words, etc. in order to build rapport. An example of this would be to casually and naturally take a sip of water when the individual you are establishing rapport with sip’s their water.
Shifting Perceptual Positions: Shifting between different points of view, one of three mental positions (self, another person’s perspective and from an outside person’s perspective). The person with the most psychological flexibility will always be the one with the most influence.
Developing Well-Formed Outcomes: Developing a specific, sensory-based result. This has a variety of applications especially in the area of goal setting. Take the time to be specific, strategize intelligently and set a specific completion date with accountability.
State Management: Includes a variety of techniques including changing physiology. A change in your psychology is the foundation for a much needed change in your physiology.
Reframing: Changing the context of an experience in order to change its meaning. This is very effective in changing emotional responses to situations. An example of this would be the power of pictures
- Think of a picture, a picture of a memory, that when you see it, makes you feel good. That’s right. Notice how the picture looks… and just how good does this make you feel?
- Now make the picture bigger, brighter, and closer. Notice how your feelings change.
- Try it now, before you read on.
- Now take your picture and make it small, dim, and distant. Turn it from color to black and white, and if it’s a movie, make it into a still picture. Notice how you feel when you look at it now. Are your feelings stronger, or weaker? More or less positive?
- Now put the picture back the way you had it to begin with.
For most people, making a picture big, bright, intense, and close makes their feelings stronger and more positive. And making it small, dim, black-and-white, and far away makes their feelings weaker and less positive.
People who feel chronically depressed or are clinically diagnosed with depression often have a pattern of making their pleasant experiences into small, dim, gray, far-away pictures. When they look at their memories, nothing makes them feel good, and life seems joyless. Such a simple thing can make a profound difference … since most of us look at internal pictures hundreds or thousands of times a day, this gives thousands of opportunities to feel good, every day.
Dealing with an inner critic
Do you have an internal voice or voices that make you feel bad? Maybe it seems repetitive… or criticizes … or reminds you of the things you did that you perceived as stupid or dumb, or might do, or the things that might go wrong in the future. It doesn’t seem very friendly … and even when it has good advice, it’s hard to listen because of the way (tonality, volume and aggressiveness) it speaks.
- Listen to your inner critic. (If you have several, start with just one.) Notice where its voice is coming from. Do you hear it in one ear, or both? Whose voice do you hear? If it’s your voice, do you sound like you, or do you sound like you’re speaking with someone else’s words? Is the voice tone friendly, or hostile? What does the voice say?
- How do you feel when you listen to the voice? Take a moment to notice…
- Now move the voice to your clown face. How does that change your response? What if speaks in your other ear? From across the room? From the other side of the street?
- Try changing the volume. Add some static, like a radio station with poor reception, How do you feel now?
- Experiment with the sound of the voice. If it says harsh, hostile, or angry words, make it sound like Mickey Mouse on helium, have it say them in a sweet, loving, supportive voice. What if it sounds like Daffy Duck? Whispers? Squeaks? Give it a silly lisp, and play goofy music as it speaks. How do you feel as you listen?
- Command the voice that you will not accept listening to any negative BS, you will only listen it if it tells you what you do right, makes helpful suggestions, and speaks in a friendly, supportive way that you will want to listen to. How does it respond?
Once you master your emotions you are in control of your destiny, conquer the mind and your body will follow. It is when you make a change in your psychology that you will create a much-needed change in your physiology.
Believe it or not, you can change your relationship with internal voices, make friends with them, and achieve inner harmony. An internal voice that supports and encourages you, and gives you good advice, can do a lot to make your life better.
Meta Model: A model with a number of linguistic distinctions that help identify language patterns that hide the meaning through deletion, generalization and distortion. This model is very beneficial in improving communication and helping to create change. People respond to events based on their internal pictures, sounds and feelings. They also collect these experiences into groups or categories that are labeled with words. The meta-model is a method for helping someone go from the information-poor word maps back to the specific sensory-based experiences they are based on. It is here in the information-rich specific experiences that useful changes can be made that will result in changes in behavior. It is discovering your primary question, which is a question you consistently ask yourself on a daily basis and changing it to a question that better serves you to create positive and lasting change.
Swish Pattern: Very powerful technique of ‘swishing’ an old, unwanted behavior with a new, wanted behavior. This technique is very helpful in making lasting changes in habits and behaviors.
The Swish Technique
Re-direct negative thinking
The Visual Swish technique enables us to quickly dissolve the feelings attached to unwanted thoughts and to deal with useless responses.
In the Swish we replace the unwanted thought or response with a more useful and appropriate one because the Swish re-directs thinking. It is an instruction to the brain No, not that – THIS!!
Use the NLP Swish for yourself – and others
This is a valuable technique for managing your own thinking, states, and behaviors. Each time you use the Swish you are training yourself to instantly re-direct your thinking from useless topics to more resourceful ones.
By using the Swish in your own life you develop your ability to maintain resourceful states, manage your responses to stressful situations, and engage in the behaviors you want.
How to use the Swish
1. Select a replacement image
First select your Replacement Feeling – ask yourself how do I want to be instead.
Having selected the Replacement Feeling see and hear a detached and associated version of yourself experiencing this feeling. It is quite important that this image is dissociated. Enhance the detail and the quality (sub modalities) of this until the image is quite compelling.
2. Find the trigger for the unwanted mood
What is it that you respond to? How you know when to have the unwanted response or reaction?
Ask yourself what occurs just before this negative or un-wanted state begins? This time, you want an associated image of what is going on immediately before you engage in the unwanted activity.
3. Put the replacement in the corner of unwanted image
Imagine a small postage-stamp sized version of your replacement picture in the bottom corner of the unwanted picture.
4. Swish the two images
Now you want t make both images change simultaneously and with increasing speed. (Experienced NLP practitioners will select two critical sub modalities to use here. However simply making the images change size and distance from you will work most of the time.)
Have the ‘negative’ image become smaller and shoot off into the distance. At the same time have the ‘positive’ replacement image become larger and closer until it replaces the negative image completely. Imagine a “swish” sound as you do this – hence the name. That’s one Swish sound.
(Do this fairly slowly at first taking, say, 5-10 seconds to do it. Then continue, doing it a little faster each time, until you are swishing almost instantaneously, in less than a second!)
5. Clear your mind
After each Swish round blank your mind, fully! Think of something else or visualize your favorite color. Breathing easily as you do this since some people tend to hold their breath while concentrating on doing the Swish. It is crucial to the success of the Swish to clear your mind or turn your attention outside before you do each round.
6. Practice 5-7 times
Repeat steps 3 to 5 up to about seven times until you have difficulty in maintaining the unwanted image.
‘I don’t visualize’
This is a common belief. You can do an Auditory or a Kinesthetic Swish, too. So if you (or the other person if you are assisting someone else) believe that you have difficulty in visualizing you could accept this belief and use a kinesthetic or auditory swish.
Alternately, and often more effectively, you can act ‘as if’ you are visualizing, i.e. you pretend that you are visualizing and simply follow the steps listed above. Curiously, this will often work just as effectively!
To become a millionaire the fact remains that the first step to becoming a millionaire is to start thinking like one. You may say: “and exactly how does a millionaire think?” Read on to find out how you too, can start to think like a millionaire… First you must begin to think like one. Think of having money, visualize it, make a decision, create a massive action plan and take action now and you will make money. Yes this will really happen, and of course, there’s a great difference between thinking and doing and this is something that any person who wishes to make money must bridge to succeed.
Millionaires are always thinking Long-Term
Millionaires are successful because they realize the long-term benefits of present actions. They realize that to start earning millions in the future they need to invest their money and time wisely now. Successful people know that the only way to earn money is to let money work for you.
If you are planning on earning your millions through hard, direct labor, then you’re probably not going to reach that kind of money anytime soon.
However, if you are going to work smarter the answer is not to work harder, it is to strategize your most valuable commodity, time and to create your own success by recognizing opportunity even in the challenges you are faced with. Save the income you get from your hard work then invest this money into income-generating assets, then you can make your money successfully work for you so that in the future, you will earn millions from residual income alone.
To become a millionaire, you must carefully incorporate your long-term goals into the way you run your business. Given a choice between spending your business profits on a Tour De France vacation or some new office equipment that will triple productivity, it should be very clear where your money should go.
The trip to the Tour De France can definitely wait…
Millionaires Have A Deeply Ingrained Habit For Money Making
Something you should learn if you truly want to think like a millionaire is to automatically be on the lookout for new opportunities. That is, most millionaires did not make their money by kicking back and resting the moment they made their first million. Millionaires are always engaging in income producing activities.
You should apply the same principles. If you want to make money with your own business, then you should constantly improve it so that it can make you more money as time goes by.
Once you have maximized the potential of your business, you expand it or invest in another business opportunity. You simply continue improving, enhancing and maximizing. Making money in your business should become natural.
Impossible Is A Word Not In A Millionaires Vocabulary
If you want to think like a millionaire, start revising the way you See yourself, think about and feel about yourself and about things in general. Stop seeing things worse than they are, See things better than they are and find your compelling reason that you must succeed. Stop focusing on your weaknesses and concentrate on using your strengths. You should stop viewing obstacles as unmovable barriers because an obstacle is only what you see when you take your eye off of the goal.
This is the way millionaires think, welcome to your future as a successful, fulfilled millionaire.