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Studying the behaviors of successful people, Richard Bandler and John Grinder, the creators of NLP, concluded that successful behaviors are the results of the goals that have been taken through the process of well-formed outcomes.
They discovered that the ordinary people and the successful people think differently when they make decisions. The successful people envisage various conditions and different dimensions of a goal and its results before they begin. The ordinary people just begin.
Richard Bandler and John Grinder, the creators of NLP defined a well-formed outcome in (1979) Frogs into Princes as follows:
“A Well-formed outcome is a term originating in Neuro-Linguistic Programming for an outcome one wishes to achieve, that meets certain conditions designed to avoid (1) unintended costs or consequences and resistance to achieving the goal resulting from internal conflicting feelings or thoughts about the outcome. Thus, a high quality outcome is more than a vague wish or goal. It is an objective or goal that is integrated with all aspects of one’s life (morals, ethics, relationships, finances, health, body, etc.) and has a process of accomplishment that respects and supports the current desirable circumstances in one’s life.
A high quality outcome is (in a sense) consistent with forward-thinking action as well, or alternatively have been clearly and well enough defined to be prima facie free of common “muddy thinking”. By applying all of the well-formedness conditions to a goal or outcome, and adjusting the outcome specifications accordingly in the process, you create a Well-formed outcome.” (1)
When NLP became popular different people from different disciplines used the same principle but defined it in their own words and experiences. All of these different explanations showed different aspects of well-formed outcome although each person my place emphasis on one aspect of it. Jules Collingwood, an NLP trainer, described it:
“A well formed outcome is like an opening gambit in chess. It sets the scene for the rest of the game, and the level of attention given to plotting the outcome has a direct bearing on the ease with which desired results are achieved. A well-formed outcome makes the difference between wanting something in theory, and becoming able to go and get it in practice. This is not the same as taking a position about something. A well-formed outcome describes something that its user wants, in sensory based, positive terms. It includes a description of what the user wants it for, and the terms, conditions and environmental contexts in which the user wants to have it. It includes consideration of different approaches to the outcome, and time frames, costs and consequences to interested parties, and whether it is within the user’s control.” (2)
Process thinking and forward-looking are two important issues in NLP as they determine the path and destination. Every action has some consequences. Some of the consequences are predictable and desirable and some others are not predictable but when you do them they get usually out of control. The way we define a goal or an objective is to make sure that we understand what we want and what we do not want after it is realized. What we do not take into consideration is what happens when we get what we want and what we do not get when we have it. The objective of a well-formed outcome in NLP is to make sure that we consider and examine in details different aspects of the goal.
“When our wants, dreams or wishes are refined using this process they become more believable and realizable. This is why they are then described as being `well-formed’ outcomes. The term ‘well-formed’ has been around in NLP for over 30 years. However, as with many NLP terms, this name gets in the way of understanding the simplicity of the model. Some people, to make things even more obtuse, even refer to the ‘well-formedness conditions for an outcome’.
Simply put, what the term really means is that the outcome has been refined or checked against six tests and once it ‘passes’ these tests it is well-designed, or, if you must, ‘well-formed’! You can use this process to clarify your own wishes so that they are more realistic, action-focused and to assist others in doing the same.” (3)
One action can determine a large part of your life if it is not examined fully and completely. If we have any idea of NLP or a well-formed outcome we would behave very differently. The aim of a well-formed outcome is not to stop people from doing things or making decisions immediately but the objective is to ensure that at each phase of an action or goal setting is fully recognized and understood.
Your history follows you wherever you go. Be careful what you leave behind as it may capture you one day when you don’t need it at all. Whatever you do may emerge in your life somehow later. You will enjoy or suffer the consequences of your actions. To make sure that NLP can help you in processing a well-formed outcome, six major questions must be asked. Each major question includes some subordinate questions to clarify those aspects of the goal that are usually neglected.
Well-formed outcome is a six-step process. Richard Bandler and John Grinder, the founders of NLP defined well-formed outcome in this way:
The well-formedness conditions:
1. Be stated in the positive (that is, what you want, rather than what you don’t want), see positive and negative
2. Be capable of representation in the sensory representational system (tangible rather than theoretical or conceptual: able in principle to be evidenced through the senses when attained. Thus, seen, heard or felt)
3. Be possible and achievable
4. Have all the resources (people, psycho-physiological states, time, capital, equipment, or material) required or accessible.
5. Have a defined time frame
6. Be ecological in having consideration for cost and consequences for oneself and others affected.
The 6 Qualifying Detailed Questions
NLP trains you to ask these questions from yourself and others when you train them in order to shape their attitude in a way that focuses on well-intended results.
1. Be stated in the positive
Everything starts with the big question and the most important question of life: what do you want? This question is valid for the whole life or for a very small event. Possibly this question has been asked more than any other question in the history of mankind. The big problem is also that most of people do not know what they want. When you wake up in the morning, the first question arises in your mind is what I do today? Where I go today? What I want to achieve today. Even if they are not asked consciously they pester your mind even if you do not respond to them. If you don’t know what you want, you don’t get anything or you may get what you don’t want to have. If you don’t know where you want to go, you may never go anywhere or you may end up where you didn’t want to go. If you do not have a plan of action for everyday you may not do anything or you may do something that you shouldn’t do. These are the questions that NLP developers reflected on for some time and realized that successful people always know what they want, they know where they go and they know what to do and how to do it.
2. Be capable of representation
When you realize what you want, you have to know how you would know when you had it. In fact you must have a very clear picture of having it in your mind so that you know when you have it, it will look like the way you have figured it out. This is also a very important part in NLP as it would use your sensory systems to figure out the whole process and the end result.
3. Be possible and achievable
You have to make sure that what you want is possible and achievable so that you cannot go after things that are not within the framework of your capabilities although you may never know how much capabilities you have. Most of the people do not know their capabilities. That is the reason that they do not go for bold actions. NLP gives you confidence that you can develop unimaginable capabilities for achieving outstanding results even if you may think that they are not possible at the beginning. The important thing is what ever the goal is, you must believe that it is achievable and possible even if other people tell you that you cannot do it or it is not possible because when other people say something like that, they talk about their own limitations and not your capabilities. NLP is about unleashing your capabilities.
There are major differences between NLP goal setting, NLP well formed outcome and wishful thinking. Wishful thinking is what most people do during the day and the life. They wish that they had this and that without turning that wish into a goal and taking the goal through the process of the well-formed outcome. Remember that the goals have outcomes. And outcomes are intended or unintended. The goal setting becomes more realizable when it is conducted through the process of well-formed outcomes.
Collin Powell once said the secret of success is adequate preparation. For each goal that you want to achieve or any well-formed outcome that is supposed to be accomplished you need a wide variety of resources and preparation. NLP emphasizes more on mental and psychological resources. Other resources may be financial, intellectual, professional, educational and many other things. You need to think about all these resources you need to have before starting a goal if you do not want to get frustrated at the middle of the project and abandon it. Millions of projects are abandoned everyday and every year because all the requirements for their success were not thought of and provided when they began the project. NLP draws your attention to preparing what ever is required to succeed and providing it.
5. Have a defined time frame
Timeline has a particular importance in NLP as everything happens in time and place. You must therefore have a timeline for starting a goal and completing it. Thinking in terms of Timeline requires what I call systematic thinking in which you start from the beginning and go step by step systematically until you accomplish it. The example is start from A, then go to B, then go to C and then go to D to until you reach Z. You need always a place and context in which you want the well formed outcome to be achieved. As an NLP trainer I have realized that the context in which to achieve a goal is very significant. And context makes goals more specific and related to specific places, issues and people. As much you need a timeline in NLP you need a context too. You need to know where you want to do it and when you want to do it. Creating a Timeline for starting and finishing a project compels you to work according to deadline and finish it accordingly. At the same time when you divide the job into small pieces of A, B, C… you make it easier to accomplish.
6. Be ecological in having consideration for cost and consequences for oneself and others affected.
This is the last important part that I have been talking about in the previous articles: intended and unintended consequences for yourself, for others, and four everything else. You have to think what would happen to you when you have achieved it. There are a lot of people who go to NLP courses and consequently they begin to improve themselves and they expect the members of family to do the same thing but they do not show any sign or willingness to improve themselves. This creates tension among the members of family as the expectations among them will change. You may write a book and do not think of the consequences. You may face the situation that Salman Rushdie encountered when he wrote the Satanic Verses.
If you follow these simple steps of NLP and well-formed outcome when you set a goal, make a decision and prepare a project, you are more likely to achieve success.
By Lisa Christiansen
As a cyclist or triathlete you know how it feels to one day go out feeling as if you are Lance Armstrong and the next day under the exact same conditions feel like a big donkey! Most professional athletes will tell you that performance is all in the mind and the really successful ones don’t just say it, they believe it and they do something about it. They use psychological training.
I have always been fascinated with what can be achieved with the right mental fitness and I am obsessed with endurance sports so I thought I would create a system to teach you some of the exercises and techniques I have used to help Olympic and World champions reach their full potential. I have developed this program to help you reach a whole new level of performance, so as you read the posts, do the exercises and let me know how I can help you reach your outcome.
The FREE resources, exercises and techniques, which will be posted, are specifically for cyclists and triathletes. I will also be looking at how other sports stars prepare mentally for competition and showing you how you can adapt it for cycling and triathlon events.
My Outcome Is To Help You Develop:
- Control over pre-competition anxiety
One of the biggest hurdles competitors and performers encounter is competition anxiety. This emerges as nervousness, negative self talk, cold sweats, difficulty sleeping the night before competition and so on, this is not a helpful state to be in, as interferes with pre competition preparation, and can often continue through to the competition itself, resulting in a diminished performance (which itself becomes a ‘memory’ for future anxiety). Consultations would concentrate on shifting negative memories, thoughts and emotions, and develop a positive strategy for optimal arousal.
- Laser sharp concentration
Rebuilding Motivation and Focus
Sometimes we simply lose our focus, drive and energy for a particular goal. This affects our training and affects our competition. There can be a variety of reasons, such as conflicts within the team, our sport/life balance is out, or a major life event has occurred. Using hypnosis and NLP we can discover the cause of the lack of motivation, re-engage the goal, and the momentum towards it. This is where we build a foundation with a results focused, focus driven massive action plan engaging the reticular activating system in our brain that unleashes the servo-mechanism allowing success as the only option.
Unshakeable belief and confidence
Sports NLC is built on the principles of NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) and recognizes that for you to achieve outstanding success, you must run a ‘mental program’, which is capable of outstanding success.
If you agree that your mind is the most powerful computer known to man and for a computer to operate effectively it requires software, then you can consider Sports NLC to be mental software for your mind.
By introducing a new language into your mind, (i.e. a language of psychology of sports success through the art of NLP utilizing the sub-modality Sports NLC), you will literally reprogram your own mind to think at this level yourself. You will start to see the world through the eyes of leading athletes. Opportunity and success will present it self, simply because you will now be ready to see it, where others can’t.
By installing a new program/language in yourself, you will develop the unshakable belief and confidence that is common to all ultra-successful athletes. When you are on top of your game, your confidence and self-belief will be obvious which in itself will inspire others to believe in you and follow you.
Supreme mental toughness
Clearing Negative Memories
For most, profound negative experiences are managed in a way that allows us to move on. However, every now and then a negative experience can play on mind. Sometimes we are consciously aware of this, other times we simply know that we have developed an something unhelpful since experiencing a particular traumatic moment. Consultations would use the rapid techniques in NLP and hypnosis to ‘shift’ the negative memory in a way that allows you to move on.
If you want to get more specific, the inner mind uses the parts of your brain beneath the cerebral cortex where neuroscientists have identified structures that are responsible for feeling emotion, normal body movement you know so well they become automatic like walking and processes necessary for survival such as breathing.
Because the subconscious mind both influences what you perceive and changes as a result of your perceptions, it involves the rest of the nervous system beyond the brain. This subconscious or inner mind is the seat of your emotions, habits and beliefs, and it involves your memories and experiences in creating your wellness.
- Higher levels of motivation
Maintaining a high level of discipline will also help raise your level of self-motivation. Discipline will assist you in setting schedules to meet desired goals and objectives despite whatever obstacles might get in the way keeping in mind that an obstacle is what you see when you take your eye off of the goal.
Believing in what you are doing and adhering to the assigned tasks will give you the motivation you need to meet the outcome that you have set for yourself. Increasing self-motivation through discipline can also be obtained by recounting the numerous benefits that can result from you ultimately succeeding as an athlete as well as other areas of your life.
With these modalities I am not going to just stick to the usual Sports Psychology techniques but will introduce you to the secrets of other mental training tools including Hypnosis and Neuro-Linguistic-Programming (NLP).
“The most common road to mediocrity is being realistic.” – Will Smith
Ever notice something about realistic people?
… 90% of the time … they’re broke!
Realistic people can’t stand change. Realistic people are usually cynical about change, paradigm shifts, new ideas and anything that clashes with their secure world. Realistic people will snear at you in the beginning … but loose in the end. Realistic people stay stuck in a frame of mind that only exists in usually the past. Realistic people don’t believe they can ever do anything other than what has already been done. Realistic people are mediocre at best.
Who wants to be realistic?
Let me tell you about unrealistic people. The people who make real differences in this world usually aren’t tallying up the odds, and they aren’t coming up with endless reasons why something can’t work. They don’t care what’s realistic. Let me ask you a question, what the hell in this world is realistic? We wake up every day and do things people would have thought were impossible 20-30 years ago. What if you tried to explain the Internet to someone in 1985? You’d probably have been told your brains are fried. Unrealistic things are happening every day. And if you think being realistic is going to create the kind of life you want, you’re sadly mistaken. Even though things are changing so rapidly every day, we still have the time to sit back and decide what is realistic and what’s not. BS! There is no such thing as realistic and there is no such a thing as unrealistic. The only thing that doesn’t change is your belief of what is “suppose” to happen. Only you can change that.
“The 95% of realistic people in this world work for the 5% of unrealistic people.” – Will Smith
The unrealistic people rule the world. Is it realistic to be the chairman of a top Fortune 500 company? Is it realistic to train your whole life to win a gold medal? Is Open Source software outperforming technology giants realistic? It’s scary to think what the world would be like if some of the great inventors of our time would have been realistic people, who payed close attention to the odds against them. We blame this stuff on luck, or someone who had a fluke opportunity. Even success-minded people fall into this trap. But a few of us know this: when you think unrealistically, it opens a new space in your mind that didn’t exist there before, a higher level of thinking. Albert Einstein said that “a problem can’t be solved at the same level of thinking that it was made at.”
Here’s a question to ask yourself: Am I realistic and in what situations am I realistic? Make sure you pay close attention to the answers you give yourself.
Next time someone tells you something is unrealistic, your answer should be … “Compared to what?”
A good belief to instill in yourself is that nothing is impossible if you really want it bad enough and do whatever it takes. Maybe it takes working late and starting early, a sickening work ethic, relentless repetition until it works. Just take someone who has accomplished something, that you would consider, nearly impossible and use them as a role model. What makes your little challenges so hard to defeat? Are you even giving 10% of what you could?