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The 20 Essential Habits of Highly Passionate People
I’ve always worked hard at whatever I’ve been doing. My work ethic comes from doing what I enjoy, and not forcing myself to do something.
Highly passionate people aren’t just lucky they share common characteristics. They work hard, they trust their intuition and they persevere.
I personally don’t see myself having any other options than following my passion. Without doing what I truly want, life would be without color, without joy and without meaning. Success without fulfillment is failure.
We all have the habits necessary; we just need to let them shine.
When I was in my late teens, I wasn’t even remotely familiar with terms like “follow your passion”, “listen to your heart” or “go with your intuition”.
As the years have passed, these concepts have grown and I’ve realized that the only thing that matters is what I am excited about in this very moment.
It’s far too easy for me to start questioning what I’m doing. Let’s take language learning for example. It’s easy for me to argue that it’s a waste of time.
But in the end, what matters is how much I’m enjoying myself. You can never know where you’ll end up, so you might as well enjoy the ride, right?
We’ve been taught that logic is superior, but is it really? Life isn’t a game where all the variables are known, so there’s no way you can predict the future (unless you have special powers).
Courage is something you build up. When I was younger, I was afraid a lot more than I am now, but I didn’t let it control my life.
Many seem to believe that following their passion should be effortless. Fortunately it’s not, because if it were everyone would be doing it like a cookie cutter mold. It requires a lot of hard work, but the good news is that you’ll love it because you’re doing something you’re excited about.
I’ve never worked a real job in my life. I have always owned my own business from the moment I turned 2 years old and all through my life, even when there wasn’t a profit I always believed it would come. I had no idea I was going to succeed at the level I am at now and I still see myself as the little girl from Tahlequah, Oklahoma. In the beginning, a lot of people doubted if making a living speaking was possible.
I have a passion for helping others, so I keep at it and eventually I started making a comfortable living. That took courage, but it wasn’t extraordinary. I just took things one day at a time and worked hard.
If there’s anything I’ve learned, it’s that results usually don’t come fast. Following your passion doesn’t just happen. It takes a lot of hard work. In my case, I invested a lot of money before I started making money.
People tell me that I’m lucky. I seem to get good at everything they say. I’m not lucky. I’m just determined and I make sure to pick something that I like doing. It’s pretty easy to get good at something you love doing.
In the beginning, you may not be 100% determined, but that’s okay. Be as determined as you can be and keep moving forward. Many people mistake a temporary failure for a permanent one.
There are no permanent failures. There are only learning opportunities. If you learn everything you can about blogging, try it for a year and then lose motivation—that’s cool!
You never know. Maybe you unconsciously picked up a few skills that will help you down the road with something else.
My #1 priority is doing what I feel excited about.
I have bad days like anyone else, but in general I’m a pretty positive girl. I feel good as long as I’m doing what I feel I should be doing.
There’s a fine line between being blissfully ignorant and positively realistic. It’s something you have to figure out for yourself. Try both and find your own balance.
I personally enjoy being blissfully ignorant, especially if it upsets someone else. There are a lot of people out there that try to tell you that you can’t go after your dreams.
Those are dream thieves and they are usually the people that have given up. They aren’t really in a place to give advice. Giving their comments energy is allowing them to live rent free in your head.
By being positive you lead by example. There is really no better way to change the world than to be the change you want to see. There’s no need to convince anyone.
Being passionate doesn’t mean limiting yourself to one passion per lifetime. I’ve been passionate about health, martial arts, websites and languages.
My passion changes all the time, but what remains constant is my single-mindedness. I work best when I’m 100% focused on what I do.
For example, in 2010 I immersed myself in mastering NLP. I did nothing else but study NLP for several months. I’m obsessive like that.
I want to be able to spend as many hours as possible on what I truly enjoy. That is what I mean by being single-minded.
By following your passion, you automatically become growth oriented. You tap into something greater than yourself.
That source of guidance can only lead to one place and I think you know what it is. We all have different words, definition and concepts about it, but we all mean the same thing.
I’m always looking to grow in every way possible. I want to become better, smarter and happier.
You must keep it fun.
Let’s say you have to choose between two paths.
Path #1 is faster, but requires more discipline and is less fun. Path #2 is slower, but you’ll enjoy it more. In the past I would’ve chosen Path #1, but now I’d choose #2, because if I’m not enjoying myself right now, it’s not worth it.
I used to have a problem of jumping into too many things at once. I think we all have many interests, which is good, it can be a double-edged sword.
I think we’re familiar with the feeling of wanting to do everything at once. Usually when I ask someone what they want to do, they rabble up a dozen different things.
What works for me is relentless focus. I pick one thing, maybe two, and focus on them until I feel like it’s time to move on.
For some, this may seem irresponsible, but to me, it’s the only way of living life that makes sense.
Imperfection is perfection, I’m a Virgo and apparently they are perfectionists. I am no exception so I must remind myself that imperfection is perfection.
Throughout the years I’ve learned to ease up on my perfectionism. Instead of focusing on the little details, I’ve started focusing on the big picture.
I think about what I want to achieve and I am more concerned about making progress than making everything look good.
Let’s take blogging as an example, just because it’s on my mind right now. If you want to start blogging, just start! You don’t need an awesome design or to have everything planned out.
All you need is to get your blog up, get it looking okay and start writing, recording podcasts or making videos. That’s the only way you’ll know if you even like it.
So often we think we like something, but when we actually start, we realize that it doesn’t feel right at all. That’s why it’s important to get started, get your feet wet and see how it feels.
Prioritization goes hand in hand with being selective. I know people that don’t have time, and I know people that make time. It’s not that you don’t have enough time; it’s that you fail to prioritize.
I’ve received a lot of e-mails about time issues. I know some people are single-mothers, working two jobs while juggling two kids. I know how tough that is, I also know that if you really want something, there are ways to make time and prioritize, even if it starts with a few minutes per day.
No matter how tough your situation is, you can always do something to move towards your goals. Don’t worry about reaching your goal just worry about making today more fulfilling than yesterday.
As long as I’m doing what I want to be doing, I don’t need self-motivation. It’s only when I do the boring tasks that I have to throw in some Wonder Woman motivation techniques.
For example, when I was working on Living Your Passion, I had to get the technical part fixed in order to start selling it. It wasn’t fun, but I knew that it had to be done.
My focus was constantly on how good I would feel when I was done. Whatever motivates you is fair game. There are no rules when it comes to self-motivation.
I sometimes use negativity to motivate myself. I don’t care, as long as I get things done. I try to be proactive and avoid these situations though.
The more I follow my passion, the more motivated I am.
Sometimes things don’t work out the way I want them to. I do my best to accept whatever comes my way, but I don’t always succeed. Sometimes life just isn’t that easy.
If there’s something I focus on impressing to portray, it’s the fact that I’m as human as you. Even seemingly “perfect” personal development experts are human.
We all make mistakes. We’re all afraid. The people that seem to be the most successful are the ones who’ve figured out how to keep taking action despite the obstacles on their path.
There’s no one out there that can really tell you what to do. You have to figure out your own stuff. While I do recommend that you learn from others in the beginning, you also have to be willing to take the wheel after awhile and start experimenting.
Service to others is really service to self. I’m going to say that one of the main reasons I want to help you is because it makes me feel good to see you succeed.
I’ve been on both sides of the fence. When I was a professional exercise and nutrition master trainer, I was focused largely on myself.
It was nice, it just wasn’t fulfilling. I’ve since discovered that helping others makes me feel much better than just helping myself.
Something I also want to point out is that sometimes you need to help yourself before you can help others. Looking at it from that perspective, personal development is really world development.
I have a tendency to get obsessed about the things I am interested in. Like I mentioned above with my NLP training. When I started this blog back in 2009, I was obsessed. I read, listened and did nothing but consulting. It was all I wanted to do.
And it helped me go from 0 to 2,000 fans on facebook in 90 days without ads. When you take action, results happen.
The most important thing is that I had fun while doing it.
I work best when I’m non-balanced. I may do something 10 hours a day for 3 months and then take a break, or I may do it less. It all depends on how I’m feeling.
14. Personal Power
When I got out of school at 18, my personal power level was very low. As the years passed, I’ve realized that the best place to look for guidance is within. If you’ve been reading my wordpress, you know I say that a lot.
This has helped me build confidence. I by no means have a perfect guidance system. I fall into traps. I make a fool of myself, and that’s okay, because I know that I would not want to be doing anything else.
We all have a kid inside of us who wants someone to tell us what to do. We want validation and all that good stuff. That’s okay, just remember in the end, you are the only one who really knows what you want.
I used to think money was the answer to happiness. The only way to happiness was having millions in the bank and relaxing on a nice white beach, that no longer interests me because I know the artificial happiness it creates would not last.
I need something to work on. I am constantly being pulled in different directions, and I love it. If I were to take a “vacation”, I’d probably get bored after a week and start looking for something to do.
We don’t really need to retire to a beach in Italy. All we need to do is find what makes us tick, to find our passion(s).
I couldn’t imagine myself doing nothing for an extended period of time. Happiness to me is doing what I want. It may mean something different for you, but that’s what it means for me.
There’s a need for discipline and there’s also a need for fun. I used to be a lot more disciplined than fun. I’d say no to requests to hang out, because I had my eyes on my current goal.
I wanted to reach my goal as soon as possible. I wanted to get things done. I’m not going to say that I’ve overcome this, because I love my obsessions too much, I’ve gotten a lot better at relaxing and having fun.
There’s no rush. If you feel like taking a break, then take a break. Who cares if you reach your goal? Who cares how good you look on paper? Who cares what other people think?
It’s easy to get bogged down in the details, which is why it’s important to take a few steps back and look at what you’re really trying to achieve.
I have a very easy time falling into the trap of looking at numbers on my social media pages. I look at how many people subscribe to my e-mail list and the thank you e-mails I receive.
I am guilty of comparing myself to others and think about how far I still have to go instead of looking at how far I’ve come.
In the end what this all comes down to is following my excitement. I have to remind myself of that once in awhile. I have to remind myself that I can relax and enjoy myself.
I have to remind myself that there’s no rush. The only pressure you experience is the pressure you put on yourself.
18. Dream The Impossible
When you dream the impossible the incredible happens. Most of the things we today take for granted were thought to be impossible in the past. The simple point I want to make is this: don’t listen to the “Nay Sayers,” because you will run into plenty of them.
I enjoy being called UNREALISTIC because that’s when miracles show up. If I feel good about something, I’ll go for it. I don’t care if the chances of me succeeding are small, because even if it doesn’t work out, I will most likely gain some vital experience points in life.
If at some point you don’t doubt yourself, you’re probably not being uncomfortable enough. Going after your passion means being uncomfortable. It’s not necessarily a bad thing it’s just different.
Being flexible and open-minded means different things to different people. I like to think of myself as open-minded.
If I’ve set my sails for something, I shut out everything else and start taking action. There’s no need for me to keep distracting myself with more information if I know enough to take action.
There will always be people telling me that I’m doing things wrong, I don’t listen to them, because the only thing that matters is how I feel about what I’m doing.
Maybe I need to fail in something to succeed at something else down the road. This is why I’ve stopped looking at things in isolation. I’ve started to trust the force.
Last, but definitely not least is the fact that I don’t take excuses seriously. If I want something badly enough I will overcome any excuse.
If I succumb to my excuses, I know I’m not really ready to head down that road. It may also be because it’s not a road that’s a good fit for me at this time.
When I’m on-fire about something, excuses fly out the window. When I started studying NLP, I knew that I could make a living if I put in the work.
I was afraid, shy and had all the usual problems 18-year olds have, but my goal was to make it work. I didn’t want a 9-to-5 job like everyone else. It just wasn’t for me.
The excuses you have right now don’t matter. What really matters is what kind of life you want.